releasing tension

The knot deep down in my lower right back stung all day. I couldn't relieve any of the pressure no matter what I did. Finally, I arrived at the studio where we worked through some amazing poses that helped to start the process of unwinding the deep knot.

There isn't much to say about taking care of a knot except for the fact that it is extremely painful. You have to press into the knot while simultaneously relaxing the muscles that surround it. Talk about focus. All of your energy has to convince your body that the pain that is being felt is for a positive result, and only when you sink into the pain does the knot begin to release itself.

I find that to be true about relationships. Of all types. There is a ton of pain in some of my relationships, but it wasn't until I pressed deeply into the painful parts that I was able to focus my energy on those parts instead of wondering what it was that caused the pain or if I was at fault or how I could change it or if something was wrong with me. None of that helps to resolve a conflict. And resolution does not always have to mean that two people come together and agree on the solution. Sometimes, resolution is deciding that a person is toxic to your life and moving forward without them. There is nothing easy about that.

But just like the knot in my lower back that causes the rest of my body to feel off. Only when you address the pain in a relationship can you then work toward healing the relationship; therefore, allowing the rest of your life to find the balance that we are constantly seeking.